Reaping and Sowing in your Marriage
God has handpicked the perfect mate for you. I know there are brothers and sisters who have been married and divorced. They can get discouraged if they let their past dictate their future. Past relationships should never be brought up in a new relationship. Anytime you entertain the past, it becomes the present and it will dictate your future. Leave the past relationships in the past and move forward with the new relationship you are in.
Satan will try to say, “Don’t get involved. You remember what happened in the last relationship. It’s just going to happen again.” See, this is a lie from the pit of hell. When you involve God in your relationships and you involve God in your life, He directs your path. God sends the right people across your path. You will know the person because God gives you the desires of your heart.
I am going show you how you can have victory in your marriage. Galatians 6:7 says, “Do not be deceived.” The word deceived means mislead. Satan is the father of lies and the author of deception. The Bible says in Galatians 6:7, “Do not be deceived, God is not mocked, for whatsoever a man sows, that he will also reap.” The Bible talks about sowing and reaping. Everything in the Word of God is a seed: seed, time, and harvest. If you sow seeds, then you will reap a harvest for it. Understand, when it comes to a husband and wife, a marriage, a union, a relationship, an employer, employee, whatever you sow into the relationship will be what you are going to reap out of it. In other words, how many times a week are you sowing into your spouse? How many times a week are we calling our spouses and saying, “When God was building beauty, He spent the whole day with you.” How many times a week are the wives calling their husbands and saying, “You know, when God was building men of God, He blessed me with the best man alive.” If this is what we are sowing into the hearts of each other, then this is what we are going to reap out of them. Romans 4:17b says you are to, “call those things which do not exist as though they did.”
If you are married and you keep finding all the flaws inside of your spouse, guess what you are going to have? You’re going to have a spouse full of flaws. By your words, you are going to produce life to those flaws. It’s not necessarily that your spouse will have those flaw, but it will be the way you see it. If a husband calls his spouse daily and he says, “Honey I want you to know something. I’m thanking God today that you are my bride. I’m thanking God that He has blessed me with you. I thank you that you are a mighty woman of God. I thank you that you are a woman with wisdom. I thank you that God is working on you every day, and I thank you that He is speaking to you to speak to me.” What is this person going to have? He is going to have God working on her and her telling him nuggets he needs to hear from God and vice versa. If we do not sow into the hearts of each other, what are we going to get? Nothing! God cannot be involved in it because we are not sowing good seeds into the hearts of each other.
What you sow into the hearts of each other today, are the seeds you plant. Those seeds will take care of you later on in life. In other words, if you plan on being together for the rest of your life, you want good seeds planted into each other so your spouse is strong and takes care of you your whole life. When you’re 50, 60, 70, and 80 years old, and you're still going strong because both of you are sowing good powerful seeds into each other, is when it becomes a blessing on this earth. On the other hand, if you’re sowing doubt and unbelief saying, “He’ll never change. He’s never going to be anything. He’ll never amount to that.” And listening to Satan say, "You’ve wasted your life. The grass is greener on the other side of the fence; you should jump the fence." Well, let me tell you something, when you jump that fence, it’s the same cows that eat it, and you still have to cut it. It’s not greener on the other side, its deception. That spouse is not any different from the one you had. When you go over the fence, whatever you are made up of, you will bring over there. And whatever the other person is made up of, they bring over there, too. So, if you are not going to get along in this relationship, chances are you are not going to get along in another relationship, unless you change something inside of you. You have got to change what is going on inside of you. Let God work from the inside out. God always works from the inside out and that is when you become really beautiful. When God works from the inside out He says, “It’s life to those who find it and health to all their flesh.” Proverbs 4:22. Your flesh will always be healthy. God says, “I will restore your youth.” How does God do it? He does it through your spirit. You have to make up your mind to do this. Not only do you have to make up your mind, but you have to make the decision in your spirit.
What is true love? The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.” I always ask this question, “How many of you men truly love your wives; and how many of you women truly love your husband's?” You have to ask this question to yourself. What does true love always say? True love always says, “What can I do for you?” Lust says, “What can you do for me?” True love does whatever it takes to benefit the one loved. Whatever it takes to benefit the one loved! If you want the best in your spouse, then you have to speak the best in your spouse. Speak what you want in your spouse. Romans 4:17b “call those things which do not exist as though they did.” Type it up and put it in big letters in front of your eyes. Don’t speak what you have; speak what you need. It works, I’m telling you!